Seriously, what’s the running commentary in your head? I look awful today. I’m getting old. I’m so stupid. Why can’t I get my shit together? Everyone else is doing better than me. I’m not good enough.
We can say some pretty horrible things to ourselves, things we’d never dream of saying to someone we love and then wonder why we don’t feel confident.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. There’s been plenty of research into how plants respond to their environment, including sound and vibration, and it got me thinking about the environment we create for ourselves. If what surrounds a plant can affect how it grows, what kind of environment are we creating inside our own heads with the way we talk to ourselves?
We know that stress affects the body and that our thoughts and emotions can influence how we feel physically. I’m not suggesting you can think your way out of illness, but I do think there’s something worth exploring in how we speak to ourselves. Your body deserves a better soundtrack.
One of my favourite affirmations comes from Louise Hay and her brilliant book You Can Heal Your Life: I am beautiful and everybody loves me.
If that feels a bit much, say it anyway. Try it in the mirror, when you wake up, or whenever you catch yourself picking apart your face, your body, your achievements or your life. You don’t have to believe it immediately. Just notice what happens when you start giving yourself a different message.
Sometimes we all need a bit of help. We need people who cheerlead us when we’ve forgotten how brilliant we are, critical friends who will tell us when we’re playing small, and sometimes a coach who can help us see what we can’t see for ourselves.
That’s what my 3 Hour Blast Sessions are designed for: three focused hours to step out of the noise, get clear on what’s really going on, challenge the stories that are keeping you stuck and work out what you actually want to do next.
So, if you’re feeling stuck, second-guessing yourself or simply know that something needs to change, book a call with me and let’s talk about whether a 3 Hour Blast Session could help.
And in the meantime, try this on for size:
I am beautiful and everybody loves me.
See what happens and let me know,
Love Rifa x
